The Law of Attraction, Dating and Finding Your Soulmate!
I’m writing this essay in blog-style to help others on their quest to learn to use faith or the law of attraction in their lives, especially in dating and finding your soulmate. I’m going to describe an event to illustrate my level of success. I’ll even mention the people I learned these methods from because sometimes we need someone’s actual experience to see how to use what we learn. At least that’s true for me. I’m writing this essay to help you as I feel God, our higher power, the Universe, faith or the law of attraction – whatever we see it as – helped me.
I am not using my real name here because my work is somewhat public, in a small way, and I don’t want to influence anyone in any other way than the content of this essay. These are my own experiences and opinions and wouldn’t necessarily reflect your own experience as you pursue your own path with becoming better and more successful.
I wish you success in your journey! I will watch for comments on this essay and respond if asked. Maybe that will lead to further chronicling of my experiences, I don’t know at this point. I feel like the Universe is guiding me as I write this because my MacAir is auto-deleting some of the things I’ve written through some operator error I’m making. As that happens, I’m going with it and not re-writing those statements.
Finding my Soulmate
I found myself divorced in my late 50s. I felt tremendously wronged in the events that led up to my divorce and even experienced some PTSD I think. As my wife became my ex-wife I decided to look for happiness.
I started online dating using a good, wholesome website and a few websites related to other singles of my faith. Within a short time I’d managed to meet 15 or so high quality women. None of these experiences felt like what I was looking for. Being a Meyers-Briggs type INTJ, I kept track of these individuals, my experiences and thoughts, and even compared them using the Kepner-Tregoe method of analysis. Yep, I’m an INTJ…I ran across materials on the law of attraction and was led to a seminar on finding a soulmate by a well known coach in this area. You can find her materials on the web. I went through four sessions of her training and did the exercises. These exercises were meant to move me along a continuum of increasing my beliefs and emotions to align my expectations with a new reality. I was very hopeful, which was the key for me, because I was still so sad or damaged that I had trouble visualizing a good outcome. Moving through exercises that gradually improved the expectations I was forming were essential. Although I did the exercises, in my heart of hearts I had trouble seeing that things would change. But somehow through doing these things my mindset changed enough for this to work. I put out a “call” to the Universe about the kind of partner or wife I wanted to find and kept the vibrations around this expectation increasing.
In a very short time I went back to my spreadsheet and was sifting out most of my contacts. I noticed one woman’s name and contact info that she had given me several months before. I had never contacted her. I felt bad about not reacting to her courage and warmth in giving me an opportunity to get to know her and texted apologies to her for not making contact.
She didn’t remember who I was and asked if I would send a picture. The picture led to a call, which led to dinner. I drove a long way in an unfamiliar city in pouring rain to that dinner. All the way I debated calling off the dinner but didn’t want to do that to her. I thought I’ll never make this long drive again. I met her and we connected enough to meet again for dinner. I remember that the first time we met she brought vitamins for me because I’d mentioned I was trying to be healthier. She brought treats for my youngest daughter who lived with me to the second dinner. She let me know she was very interested and felt a connection, which met one of my big criterions for finding a wife – that she would act like she wanted to be with me. We quickly became close friends and were married six months after that first dinner. We have been happy and in love ever since – now in our sixth year of marriage. I truly found my soulmate.